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Flo's avatar

I have complicated feelings towards girlhood. It's *fun* to be a girl, but there's also so much pressure. I feel like we've become so good at optimizing for external things (like aesthetics, style, health, glow-ups, etc.). They're definable goals and they're immediately satisfying — you can rock a new outfit or a new haircut! Internal growth, though, is so much harder to focus on, since it's not as immediately tangible or measurable or linear, but it's so important. You have to kind of define it yourself.

I think as I age into my thirties it's freeing in a way: you're no longer the age that society puts all their attention on. (Yes you're definitely still being marketed to... but in media, it seems like there's not really a clear image of what a 30 year old should look or be like. You can decide for yourself and lean into what works for you.)

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Celine Nguyen's avatar

reading this activated so many new ideas and perspectives on girlhood for me—I really admire how you approached this with so much freshness!

especially this insight: “Everyone wants to be a girl, but girls themselves always fear that they don’t measure up to their occupation”—which so perfectly articulates the recurrent, restless anxiety motivating many girlhood essays (are we doing it right? when will we know if we’re doing it right? are we running out of time to get it right before we become AGED CRONES incapable of attaining the things that society has promised us on the basis of our femininity??)

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