dear bear: I take dating more seriously than my peers

Henry Matisse, Seville Still Life, 1911

Dear Bear,

I'm a college junior who's never seriously dated anyone. Sometimes I feel like I should be trying harder to go on dates or pursue people even if I don't feel a strong spark, and other times I feel like I shouldn't be so crazy about it, and my person is just out there waiting to be found. This summer I'm g…