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Ron's avatar

I really identified with what you wrote Ava. My favorite go to defense has always been Intellectualization which is a pretty handy way of negating my intuition and emotions. I wanted to lesson this tendency so I tried meditation which helped-a little. Then 2 years ago I started seeing a really wonderful ACT therapist and now for the first time in my adult life I feel that I do not need to over intellectualize every single thing that bothers me. I think the ACT framework helped (Accept your feelings but don't obsess over them. Then do something that matters to you and reflects your values) but even more important was the therapeutic relationship, because it allowed me to let go of my death grip on not really feeling my emotions and using my intellect to explain them away instead.

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Arwa Almustafa's avatar

After Roam, this substack is the best thing I pay for monthly. Thank you, Ava.

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