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Sandra's avatar

I resonate with that feeling of suspicion towards good things happening in life or people being nice/loving to me. It actually has a name - an Upper Limits Problem. It's from a book I got a lot out of called Conscious Loving by Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks, who concluded that it's the major obstacle that keeps people from forming deep relationships. When things are great and you get what you wanted, you reject it because it's 'too good' based on some presets you have about how good life can be. I got some value from having a name for this pattern and calling myself out on it more. Good luck! It sounds like you're on a beautiful journey with yourself :)

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JD's avatar

Was wondering if you have thought about putting together a book list? I find out about a lot of books in these posts that I never would have heard of otherwise.

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