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Learning Step's avatar

This resonated brightly like a tuning fork. Thank you for writing this piece.

Ava's avatar

i’m so glad you liked it!!

Doug Toft's avatar

I read the first paragraph of this several times. It is so insightful that it made my hair stand up. Then it just got better.

Ava's avatar

thank you v much

Kelvin Mak's avatar

it's scary how well this article knows me; I resonated deeply with every item on the list. what the hell Ava!! but as usual, great read.

Ava's avatar

so glad you liked it!!

Dave Paola's avatar

Wow, this is such a good essay. Applause.

Ava's avatar

thank you!!

Sherry's avatar

Thanks for another great post! Found this sentence really interesting

> You don’t realize that you’re myopic and self-obsessed and cruel.

The whole paragraph and this sentence in particular feel so personal and so self-critical that it feels like the shadow of self-hatred is still there even as you're trying to reject it. Curious if this was intentional.

Always enjoy reading your thoughts and really looking forward to the next one :)

Ava's avatar

definitely me to past me ;)

Tej's avatar

I agree with this statement not because the article is in anyway lacking a unique perspective. The conclusion does seem to defeat the premise of being in a state of self loathe and constant criticism.

Wes's avatar

Oof. So many of your pieces make me feel so seen yet so attacked at the same time hahaha. Thank you for this!