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Arnaud Doko's avatar

This resonated brightly like a tuning fork. Thank you for writing this piece.

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Ava's avatar

i’m so glad you liked it!!

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Doug Toft's avatar

I read the first paragraph of this several times. It is so insightful that it made my hair stand up. Then it just got better.

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Ava's avatar

thank you v much

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kelvin's avatar

it's scary how well this article knows me; I resonated deeply with every item on the list. what the hell Ava!! but as usual, great read.

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Ava's avatar

so glad you liked it!!

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Dave Paola's avatar

Wow, this is such a good essay. Applause.

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Ava's avatar

thank you!!

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Sherry's avatar

Thanks for another great post! Found this sentence really interesting

> You don’t realize that you’re myopic and self-obsessed and cruel.

The whole paragraph and this sentence in particular feel so personal and so self-critical that it feels like the shadow of self-hatred is still there even as you're trying to reject it. Curious if this was intentional.

Always enjoy reading your thoughts and really looking forward to the next one :)

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Ava's avatar

definitely me to past me ;)

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Tej's avatar

I agree with this statement not because the article is in anyway lacking a unique perspective. The conclusion does seem to defeat the premise of being in a state of self loathe and constant criticism.

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Wes's avatar

Oof. So many of your pieces make me feel so seen yet so attacked at the same time hahaha. Thank you for this!

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