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May 19, 2024
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Some quick thoughts after the (very fun) workshop Rishi and I hosted yesterday:

  • We are all constantly in conflict. Conflict is just what happens when you and someone you’re in relationship with want different things. 

  • We might describe ourselves as avoiding conflict, but I personally believe there is no such thing as avoiding conflict. There is only transmuting how you experience conflict.

  • Internal vs external conflict: People who “don’t have conflict” in their lives generally just have internal conflict instead of externalized conflict.  Example: instead of telling my friend, “You being constantly 30 minutes late bothers me,” I just sulk about it silently.

  • Implicit vs explicit conflict: I believe that ignoring the person or responding less are implicit ways of handling conflict; you are responding to the situation, just not in an explicit way. Again: I think running away from conflict does not free you from the conflict, it just changes the way it’s expressed.

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