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Bryce Seto's avatar

I like this a lot. The deep work, the real work, we can’t fake that. We can pretend, and even have connections with people who don’t know our real core. We can hide from it. But at the end of the day, we need to be with ourselves. And if you haven’t done that deep deep work, it’s impossible to find peace. To be comfortable. To love you, fully.

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Bess Stillman's avatar

Sometimes you get the life you want to live and it’s taken from you. Sometimes the life you want wants you back for the briefest moment and then you’re forced to completely regroup. My husband is dying (we’re writers, so we’ve been writing about it in my substack and his blog) at only 39 and the question I’ve grappled with is: how do you plan a future with a man who won’t be in it? We are so compatibly odd that we have grown into each other over the years. The core of who I am will remain in a way, but now it will always be missing one of its central components. Will anything ever fill that space? What happens when our core takes permanent damage? I hope it’s like a liver, capable of regeneration. Unfortunately, I’ll find out soon.

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