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lizzie's avatar

"But maybe they didn’t know that because we never talked about it, or maybe they saw it a different way. Am I allowed to ask them to come back? Am I allowed to be mad? It’s hard when there’s nothing in our culture that tells me what to do."

I lost a decade-old friendship once because she ghosted me after attempting to talk it through. That hurt because she was willing to set aside our friendship, but sometimes I think its my fault because that was our first attempt at conflict handling & we never truly talked about the hard things or grudges that built up. Your writing really articulates well why people value romantic relationships so much more over platonic ones.

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Melody Ng's avatar

"For many people, friendship’s appeal lies in its relative lack of complications." I like the way you put this. I never thought about it deeply, but it's something that rings true for me. You still expect certain things from friendships, but it's easier to say 'different people for different seasons' and let go of friendships vs. romantic relationships.

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