I’ve been thinking about this tweet since I first saw it. When I examine my current and past relationships, it really does come down to this: all the good things are about the ability to communicate. All the bad things come down to the inability to bridge the gaps between us.
I ended a (short) relationship with an extreme non-communicator about a month ago. She had never used the word love in any of her past relationships and prided herself on extreme self-sufficiency that included being unwilling to share her inner life with anyone. She told me that she would never see a therapist, but if she did, she definitely wouldn't share any of her feelings with them either. Since I am big on communicating, this relationship was doomed from the very beginning. I was sometimes temped to cut back on my level of communication (she told me that my sharing my feelings made her very anxious) to keep the peace, but ultimately decided I needed to be authentic. This did end up accelerating the end of the relationship, and for that I am very grateful.
ah! this was so amazing :') you're one of the inspirations behind starting my own newsletter because you have such a beautiful way describing feelings/experiences I have a lack of words for <3
Thank you. Such a good observation and much needed.
'Here’s what I know: I’ve never regretting asking, never regretted knowing more.' Thank you for this evergreen reminder.
I ended a (short) relationship with an extreme non-communicator about a month ago. She had never used the word love in any of her past relationships and prided herself on extreme self-sufficiency that included being unwilling to share her inner life with anyone. She told me that she would never see a therapist, but if she did, she definitely wouldn't share any of her feelings with them either. Since I am big on communicating, this relationship was doomed from the very beginning. I was sometimes temped to cut back on my level of communication (she told me that my sharing my feelings made her very anxious) to keep the peace, but ultimately decided I needed to be authentic. This did end up accelerating the end of the relationship, and for that I am very grateful.
This is love in its most intimate form <3
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Beautiful, brilliant, insightful!
Ugh! You capture things so beautifully and I always look forward to reading your newsletters.
This is beautiful, Ava!!
ah! this was so amazing :') you're one of the inspirations behind starting my own newsletter because you have such a beautiful way describing feelings/experiences I have a lack of words for <3