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landed here from FS newsletter, never going to leave now. This hits right at heart, amazing writing!

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As someone who has forever been half-hearted all my life so far, i *hate* that about myself. At different times, i have recognized it and decided to do something about it..but i have failed. But i am gonna try again.

Thank you for writing this.

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God, I love your writing.

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I have this post bookmarked because when I read it four months ago, it was the tipping point that pushed me to end my five year retirement from my sport and return as an adult athlete. I;m back training and have not felt this alive and at peace in years. Thank you.

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Thank you thank you! best thing i'm getting in my inbox by far - <3

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Enjoyed this piece immensely! Thank you. My question - how do you find your passion, your art, your love? I am at a crossroad; newly retired, happily married and searching. I excelled in my career, guided my family to achieve their independence, and pursued sports and friendships. Maybe my passion is to just take a breathe for now. I am not sure and I don’t like the uncertainty.

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I have admired your writing without liking or commenting on all the articles I have sincerely liked and wished to have a conversation with your over. Wonder why I feel like commenting on this one but here goes. Your words and the sentiments behind them ring truer than a lot of things I hear most of the days and m truly grateful that you choose to share your words with the rest of us

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In absolute awe of this one! gonna get a printout and stick it to my desk. such a shared experience, beautifully articulated. thanks!

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A lot o your writing hits home and sometimes leaves me teary eyed 🥺

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Find something you love doing, then do it until you either die or don't love it anymore.

We are what we do. But we do what we say and say what we think, so I totally get what you're saying here.

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I generally really like this post and copied several parts of it into my notes...

I understood it as saying that we form unrequited crushes when we're missing something in our lives and we're hoping someone else will fill us.

But I do wonder if this is indirectly argues that people who feel lost in their careers, or unsure where they are living, not sure about what they are studying in school, or stuck/lost on some sort of project...shouldn't pursue love or date until they have figured everything out entirely. Basically while you're feeling lost, you shouldn't be trying to connect or find romance with someone else. Because you're so needy. Given how much of life can be uncertain, that's a pretty tall order. Sometimes we are 'half-hearted' in life and figuring things out and maybe it's ok to want company or even be a bit needy.

I don't know ...just trying to work it out myself.

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I've never felt both so therapeutic and called out by one piece this quickly. Thanks for hitting the spot, Ava, bless u 💙

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May 28, 2022·edited May 28, 2022

I feel like the prescription of this article is to become the girl version of a sigma male

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Every single line resonated.

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I somehow landed here and this is the first time I am binge reading. Amazing writing <3

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