I loved reading this! My friend sent me this post and said she felt called out by the first few paragraphs. I said yes because she’s great at flirting because she fits the category of people who are “primarily receptive” and “pull others into her energy.” She was shocked because she thinks I the best at flirting because I “keep my presence tightly contained within the boundaries of your body” which “ensures no one talks to me.” So we realized that we actually are just really good at balancing each other out and flirting with each other lol
«Is it your responsibility to be fun? Certainly not. But is it your responsibility to have fun? No one else will tell you it is, but I guess I’ll be the one to say it. If you do not remain alive to the world, the world will not remain alive to you.»
"And it’s not just about dedication to the person—over a long time, in order to be interesting, you have to keep pulling from the external world. Like how you want to arrive at lunch with your best friends saying: Guys. You will not believe the gossip I have for you. You have to remain generative in order to keep things interesting."
I've been with my husband for 25 years and we are rarely apart, but we read and travel often. I think we are mutually generative? In any case, you certainly made me generative this morning.
Such a beautiful piece. Tension and flow is something I keep exploring and it comes up in so many aspects of our life which you engaged with in this piece. The playfulness of it all, the aliveness. For me a lot of it has to do with real presence. This thing they tell about Aphrodite archetype, describing her gaze being so alluring through paying attention, which ends up seducing because we all crave that kind of presence, of someone giving us the chance to be interesting.
I consider myself a flirty person, but it has to do mostly with the intention of flirting with life.
Love how you described the interplay of comfort and challenge - the most lively relationships make you feel as if you're straddling chaos and order at every moment. Each moment has intensity because it contains so much potential, and the ones that know how to pay "obsessive attention" can find endless sources of surprise and delight within every interaction
I loved reading this! My friend sent me this post and said she felt called out by the first few paragraphs. I said yes because she’s great at flirting because she fits the category of people who are “primarily receptive” and “pull others into her energy.” She was shocked because she thinks I the best at flirting because I “keep my presence tightly contained within the boundaries of your body” which “ensures no one talks to me.” So we realized that we actually are just really good at balancing each other out and flirting with each other lol
«Is it your responsibility to be fun? Certainly not. But is it your responsibility to have fun? No one else will tell you it is, but I guess I’ll be the one to say it. If you do not remain alive to the world, the world will not remain alive to you.»
Oh boy...you are something else ❤️🎯
I love this article. This part...
"And it’s not just about dedication to the person—over a long time, in order to be interesting, you have to keep pulling from the external world. Like how you want to arrive at lunch with your best friends saying: Guys. You will not believe the gossip I have for you. You have to remain generative in order to keep things interesting."
I've been with my husband for 25 years and we are rarely apart, but we read and travel often. I think we are mutually generative? In any case, you certainly made me generative this morning.
Such a beautiful piece. Tension and flow is something I keep exploring and it comes up in so many aspects of our life which you engaged with in this piece. The playfulness of it all, the aliveness. For me a lot of it has to do with real presence. This thing they tell about Aphrodite archetype, describing her gaze being so alluring through paying attention, which ends up seducing because we all crave that kind of presence, of someone giving us the chance to be interesting.
I consider myself a flirty person, but it has to do mostly with the intention of flirting with life.
Thanks for writing.
this was fun to read, thank you! but I'm struggling to make the connection between people who want to be ravaged with tension and flow
Love how you described the interplay of comfort and challenge - the most lively relationships make you feel as if you're straddling chaos and order at every moment. Each moment has intensity because it contains so much potential, and the ones that know how to pay "obsessive attention" can find endless sources of surprise and delight within every interaction
I'll be thinking about flirting with my readers while writing now. Also, I want to be like that guy in the middle of USPS.